Jacob's Room to Choose

By Sarah Hoffman, Ian Hoffman

When Jacob and his friend Sophie get chased out of the school bathrooms, their class rethinks the whole idea of which bathroom is whose.

Jacob heads into the boys' bathroom and gets chased right back out, the boys say he looks like a girl. That same day his friend Sophie gets turned away from the girls' room for looking too much like a boy. Their teacher hears what happened and, instead of scolding anyone, hands it to the whole class as a question: who actually belongs in which bathroom? The children talk it over, sort out what they think, and redraw the signs on the doors themselves.

The book takes something abstract, gender expression, and pins it to the most everyday thing a child faces: a bathroom door and who's allowed through it. That's belonging made practical instead of preached. Nobody hands down a rule, the children reason their own way to a room for everyone. For a child who has ever felt they didn't fit the shape someone else expected of them, watching classmates arrive at 'you belong here' can do more than any lecture.